Cheating.....the most selfish act

Cheating.
It's an odd habit.
The definition of the verb is
1. to deceive by trickery, to swindle
2. to mislead, to fool
3. to elude, or escape
4. to act dishonestly.
3. to break the rules of the games.

So one has to ask....
Would you want to be with you someone that deceived you, swindled you, mislead you, made a fool out of you, escape the commitment, acts dishonestly, and breaks rules????

Even if they say I love you?

I am hoping that most of us, say NO.

Well then......why do so many people cheat?
Ha.
Well, its a selfish act. They cheat because they need something they are lacking, feel as if they deserve more, need to break rules of society rules of relationship, boredom, a thrill, or here is my personal favorite: "because you let them". In this article, if you let a partner cheat he or she will end up cheating again.....it's 60% of them are repeat offenders. ouch.

If you realize you are needing to venture outside your own relationship for something else, why not tell the partner (as hurtful as it will be) and then carry on....

Well most people do not cheat to leave their relationship. Selfish right? They simply need a "need" filled and then want to stay in their current situation. I want to scream. It becomes all about them and their needs. They won't leave, so the person hurt and cheated on still has to be the bigger person......

Clearly, if someone cheats they are not thinking about the other person. It's all about them.

Some say fessing up to an affair is selfish, as it enables you to get the guilt off your chest. I have a hard time with this. I think if you are man or woman enough to admit your wrong doings....you are a step above. Maybe I am crazy, but you cant hold a lie like that for the long run. No relationship can last with out trust....

I just think this....cheating is a horrible way to go. It most often looks like the easy way....get what you need with no knowing and keep your mouth shut. Hmm....no. Just open your mouth and get dialogue started with the person you "love."

Love feedback on this one!
xo
Penelope