Happiness

Here is a HUGE concept that most of us wrestle with our entire lives. HUGE.



To be happy.



Right, now I could write a lot of about finding happiness is relationships, sex, companionship, friendship, work, food.....



But for now....let's talk relationships.



Are you happy or are you not?



I find that I have a lot of friends that aren't. But they are in still in the same situation. Why?? Oh people can make up a million excuses..."It'll pass, Kids, Money, House, Family, Scared, Fear".



Okay, then be okay with the fact that you aren't happy.



Otherwise you are going to have to do something....You'll be a better husband, wife, kid, co-worker, friend if you are happy.



Example: Parents often say that they stay in relationships for the kids. Sooo seeing a parent unhappy their entire lives is good for a kid. It's not. Seeing happy, healthy parents in good relationships is good for kids.



If you aren't happy, say something. Ask for help. Go to therapy. Try a new way. Do it differently.



But don't freeze. Don't be too scared to be happy. You know the people I am talking about, they are miserable but won't do a thing about it. Make sure if your life you aren't repeating any of the same habits. If you freeze in one part of your life, it tends to start to bleed to other parts as well.



Don't be afraid to want to be happy. You have one life. You will be unhappy and make mistakes. But just try again. Sounds sooo simple and gosh I know it's not.



Here is my best advice. Lists. Make a list of what you want is your ideal relationship, friendship, job, etc. Then compare your boyfriend/girlfriend, friends, job to that list. Hmmm....are you really happy or are you settling?



Now settling is an entirely different blog :)
xo Penelope